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Four Sex Secrets of Happy Couples

Did you ever wonder what the best sex secrets of happy couples are? Most people can’t imagine how partners in long-term happy couples keep the passion and sizzle going.

Well one of our Love Mentoring clients was certainly mystified. Bridget signed up for ongoing dating and relationship coaching. And within the year found new charisma and new confidence. And the great love of her life, John, a warm chiropractor. The chemistry with John was like a scene out of Fifty Shades of Grey. He was crazy about Bridget. And after a few months of keeping him waiting, she was finally ready to answer ‘yes’ to his requests for exclusivity. And ‘yes’ to his longing to get more intimate.

Bridget’s Breakthrough

Bridget handled her sexual life very well in that she did not have sex prematurely. But once she did start, she made a commitment to learning about how to enjoy great sex. And learning about the four best sex secrets of happy couples. Making love is a not a good idea before you have a serious committed relationship. But once you are committed, having the best sex possible is very important. It helps your relationship last and get even better over time. And the four best sex secrets helped.

Did you know that really fulfilling sex releases endorphins. And that elevates mood, lowers stress and even pain levels? After having satisfying sex, each partner associates feeling good with the other. Testosterone, the sexual hormone engine for both men and women, also generates feelings of connection. Finally, having sex drives up levels of oxytocin (the cuddle, tend & befriend hormone). That explains why for many men, (and women) having sex is usually synonymous with feeling intimate and close. So how do you create the best sex? Read on for the best sex secrets of happy couples.

#1 Sex Secret of Happy Couples: Novelty

You might end up laughing yourselves silly as you experiment. Neither my husband nor I is a gymnast, so some of the Kama Sutra is a laugh riot for us. Take it all as fun and games. In the end, make sure that both of you are fully satisfied. No matter whether that’s achieved orally, manually, or through intercourse.

Sex is a wonderful gift to be enjoyed and shared by both of you. Good, frequent sex promotes your own physical and mental health. And that of your man, and the vitality of the relationship. Among other things, it is associated with a reduced incidence of breast cancer in women who have never had a child. And more restful sleep, greater pain relief and elevation of mood. And, looking younger, overall fitness, longevity, and happiness!

Sex Secret of Happy Couples — #2 Sexual Trance

  • In order to learn what works for him, try touching, massaging, licking, or stimulating all the different parts of his body. Observe and ask him questions about what feels good. Try different sexual acts, variations of intercourse positions, and, most important, oral sex. Virtually all men adore oral sex. This is what men really want. If you have a problem with this, consider the fact that if your man showers, chances are his mouth has more germs than his penis does!

Sex Secrets of Happy Couples — #3 Learn What Works for Your Partner

Sex Secrets of Happy Couples — #4 Discover What Works for You

The more you know about your own body, the better your lover will be able to please you. Guide him or her by saying positive things like, “I love it when you stroke my breast gently.” Or “I would love you to use your magic mouth on my tummy and work your way down.” Or you can say, “That is wonderful! Could you stroke me a little (slower/faster/in a teasing way/ with lubricant/using your tongue, etc).” Be validating and then very very specific about what you want, when you want it and for how long. Your partner will be thrilled with how responsive you become to him and his touch. And you will be over-the-moon with pleasure and fulfillment.

Be sure to visit our Happy Couple page for a lot more information (~7,500 words) on creating intimacy in long-term healthy passionate relationships!

PBS love expert, psychologist & bestselling author, Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. along with her expert team have helped thousands of singles and couples to find love.

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